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The Big Three

The Big Three

By Lee Webster & Tony LaMouria

If you follow the news, you will have noticed a great number of commentaries lately regarding the school shooting in Florida last month. When tragedy like this strikes our communities, it is natural to try to find a “why” answer and someone or something to blame. In addition, we hear and see a barrage of opinions and well-intentioned responses flood the media. But often, the issues that surface with the most robust activity are issues that are peripheral to the heart of the matter. It’s like trying to deal with a continuous oil leak down-stream, but never going up-stream to stop the oil flow.

When crisis does hit, it is fascinating to see the immediate human responses that do address the proverbial “oil leak.” There are three constants that we turn to, the value of meaningful faith, the importance of family, and how precious life is!

God is concerned with the crises in our lives. His concern is evident in the provisions he has given us and which, if we look very closely, are always there – especially when we need them most. When we wonder how and why circumstances can happen; when we wonder where God is when it hurts so terribly, faith, family, and life always rise to the top of our purview. We can’t deny it, because it’s where we always turn.

Scripture tells us that faith is being sure of what we have hoped for and certain of what we cannot see. That doesn’t mean that we are blindly assuming “it will all work out”. It means that we know that the bigger picture we have been promised and are relying on – God’s sovereignty and goodness – will eventually right every wrong. It’s confidence in His goodness, perfection, creativeness, wisdom, and power to do what nobody can imagine experiencing or witnessing.

Working with people from every background, faith and demographic over the years, it is clear that family is not just blood relatives, but is the community of like-minded individuals that know they can be safe with, dependent on, and courageous with. I have known families (and I would consider my own) to be made up of individuals from different parents, races, and countries. It is amazing to see the beauty and power of God’s grace in His idea of “brothers”, “sisters”, “mothers”, “fathers”, and “family”.

Perhaps most significant is the commonly shared belief in the value of life. When it comes down to it, we all believe in the sanctity of life and we demonstrate it in the shared tears and pain of loss.

There is a good God over all of this. He does provide. While we cannot simply sweep away the pain or the questions, we can help each other find a few comforting answers that let us know we are not forgotten; we are not forsaken; we are not alone. How powerful to note right before Easter, that here is hope because there is a returning redeemer one day. In the meantime, let us persevere together in faith, family, and audacious resiliency of life.

Comments (1)

  1. Thank you for honoring Christ, and being a blessing to our community.

    In perusing your website, I note that you posit the intriguing and spiritually painful issue of “why” we see these nightmares- individuals ruthlessly attacking and destroying other lives. As you beautifully express, God is sovereign, and will bring forth fruit in the light those who are in Christ Jesus, and drawing those who were in darkness, (as I once was), unto Himself.

    Yet, speaking as a physician, I believe that there are biological reasons why our society is overwhelmed with violence, and part of the “why” issue involves the physiology of brain injury. I do not suggest for a millisecond that we are not accountable to God and to others for the evil that we commit in our lives; quite the contrary. Yet I believe it is a medical fact that those individuals that wantonly destroy others have brain injury, which common sense would suggest, (even if this is “politically incorrect”).

    In wrestling with issues related to my and my daughter’s Traumatic Brain Injury from an auto accident, and learning by our experience that the conventional medical diagnosis of “post concussion syndrome” is not very helpful, I came across the work of a superb scholar, Dr. Mark Gordon, who (via the “Warrior Angels Project) restored about 180 veterans who were hospitalized for attempted suicide in the context of PTSD. (Having worked as a physician for the VA, I have seen hundreds of our most courageous and faithful citizens also wrestle with these issues).

    If it would ever be helpful, I would be more than willing to lecture on this subject to any clinicians or individuals for whom it might be helpful and relevant , as it’s very important, (and is not taught to us in medical school). Of course, if there’s no appropriate venue, that would be perfectly OK, but I offer this in the spirit of Christian brotherhood and academic sharing.

    As Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life, we always strive to walk in truth, including academic truth. Irrespective of whether it would be helpful at any point for me to share with my colleagues at Center of Human Development what I have learned (and am learning), I’m so grateful for good, Christ-centered colleagues who are doing so much to bless and encourage the minds and hearts of our neighbors and friends in our community.

    Thank you!

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